The Whole Person…writes Rabbi Michoel Gourarie

January 31, 2014 by Rabbi Michoel Gourarie
Read on for article

In Pirkei Avot (Ethics of the Fathers) where our sages teach us many lessons in personal growth it states: “Rabbi Joshua the son of Prachia says, “Make for yourself a mentor, acquire a friend and judge everyone favorably.”

Rabbi Michoel Gourarie

Rabbi Michoel Gourarie

Why are these three concepts lumped together in one teaching? We can appreciate the connection between a mentor and a friend. They are both relationships that support the growth of the individual. But why is the lesson of judging people favorably taught in the same sentence? 

Often we meet people who initially impress us, and based on this first impression we hold them in high regard. However, as we get to know them a little better, forming a closer relationship, we discover their deficits and the dark sides of their personality. At that point we are disappointed at how someone who presented so well could fail us in that way.

This is what Rabbi Joshua’s lesson intends to avoid. For the development of any person it is essential to have spiritual mentors and good friends whom we can trust, confide in and share our lives with. But everyone has weaknesses and deficits that were initially hidden and carefully camouflaged. So as we succeed in forming these important relationships, we also have to learn the art of accepting people’s faults and judging them favorably.

Learning to trust someone also means learning how to accept the whole person and see them in a positive way.


Speak Your Mind

Comments received without a full name will not be considered
Email addresses are NEVER published! All comments are moderated. J-Wire will publish considered comments by people who provide a real name and email address. Comments that are abusive, rude, defamatory or which contain offensive language will not be published

Got something to say about this?

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Discover more from J-Wire

Subscribe now to keep reading and get access to the full archive.

Continue reading